It's always better to talk things frankly!

I've always believed in being frank and talking face-to-face to the people you're in trouble with. That's been my motto for a long time.

But things change when I'm involved in a trouble and not just viewing it through the eyes of an outsider. It's not that simple to be frank when you're having trouble with someone, especially with a dear one. I , to be honest, keep asking myself whether this one deserves to be talked to or not. Whether this one is hurt as much as I am. Whether this one will appreciate what the talk we're having or just ignore the details in order to skip the discussion. One of the most important questions would be whether this talk , though I'm supposed to be talking to a (close) friend, doesn't mean I'm humiliating myself in front of this person. Because if I started the discussion or the talk, this could mean that I'm willing to admit I'm guilty or at least that I'm always the weak side; the one who apologizes and feels bad when things go wrong. Sometimes I think this way and sometimes I don't really believe things can get so far between friends.

Despite all the aspects I just said, I still believe in talking things over and sort of revising the problem between the ones involved. It's definitely better than hiding things or not talking at all, which I admit I have done before, unwisely!! You see, one can even take advantage from negative incidents as well as good ones.

Besides, what I've discovered right now, if the one you're talking to doesn't appreciate the discussion you're having, then allow me to tell you, you've chosen a wrong friend. Nevertheless, sometimes you need to be the patient one, prevent any further harsh arguments and give this one some time to think over the things that you've said. I would say, in cases of misunderstanding you just have to give so much effort to come out with the least losses on each side. After all without discussing things and making compromises this time or the other we wouldn't have been able to solve stuff and overcome misunderstandings.

This makes me kind of relieved, because I needed to think things over before starting some sort of a reassuring argument..but I don't think it's that a big deal as I think it is. Misunderstandings happen, you just have to search and find your way out. :)