What have I been up to lately? What is happening around, all over the world, everywhere I go? I have a one and only answer: FRUSTRATION.
Friends go out. Out of boredom, out of the lack of amusement, out of whatever it is, they have a fight. Why? Did anyone insult the other? Did anyone felt some sudden hate for the other? Did anyone hit the other? No. What then? Misunderstanding. Why do we misunderstand one another? Simply because we don't give ourselves the chance to think things over..to listen properly..to understand and here's the tricky part: to think of a concrete, and most of all proper reaction. This pretty much takes about ten seconds, so I would advise everyone as well as myself to take this anonymous advice into consideration: Count till ten before reacting.
Believe me, it will save us zillions of things: nerves first of all, time, health, anger and sorrows.
You can't believe how many people I know face problems because of this frustration. Needless to say that such frustration causes the death of some people, who suffer from health problems (diabetes or high or low blood pressure). Some of my relatives for instance have such trouble, which enlarges the worrying circle of life. Grandparents worry about their children and grandchildren. Grandparents get sick out of being nervous. Grandparents force their children (indirectly) to take care of them, go to the doctor and worry about them instead of working properly. Children do the same thing. Sometimes I get the impression that people are addicted to being nervous, so they worry about anything and everything. And if there is nothing to worry about (which happens rarely), we can worry about the fact that we're worrying. There will always be something to worry about, don't worry. (Excuse me, a bit excited)
Personally, I am trying hard to do the 'counting' thing, so please wish me luck. So, if I will fail in convincing others of this brilliant idea (which is totally for their own sake), I hope I would at least help myself with it and save myself from worrying.
People, don't worry, please!!
Wednesday, January 31, 2007
Tuesday, January 30, 2007
It's always better to talk things frankly!
I've always believed in being frank and talking face-to-face to the people you're in trouble with. That's been my motto for a long time.
But things change when I'm involved in a trouble and not just viewing it through the eyes of an outsider. It's not that simple to be frank when you're having trouble with someone, especially with a dear one. I , to be honest, keep asking myself whether this one deserves to be talked to or not. Whether this one is hurt as much as I am. Whether this one will appreciate what the talk we're having or just ignore the details in order to skip the discussion. One of the most important questions would be whether this talk , though I'm supposed to be talking to a (close) friend, doesn't mean I'm humiliating myself in front of this person. Because if I started the discussion or the talk, this could mean that I'm willing to admit I'm guilty or at least that I'm always the weak side; the one who apologizes and feels bad when things go wrong. Sometimes I think this way and sometimes I don't really believe things can get so far between friends.
Despite all the aspects I just said, I still believe in talking things over and sort of revising the problem between the ones involved. It's definitely better than hiding things or not talking at all, which I admit I have done before, unwisely!! You see, one can even take advantage from negative incidents as well as good ones.
Besides, what I've discovered right now, if the one you're talking to doesn't appreciate the discussion you're having, then allow me to tell you, you've chosen a wrong friend. Nevertheless, sometimes you need to be the patient one, prevent any further harsh arguments and give this one some time to think over the things that you've said. I would say, in cases of misunderstanding you just have to give so much effort to come out with the least losses on each side. After all without discussing things and making compromises this time or the other we wouldn't have been able to solve stuff and overcome misunderstandings.
This makes me kind of relieved, because I needed to think things over before starting some sort of a reassuring argument..but I don't think it's that a big deal as I think it is. Misunderstandings happen, you just have to search and find your way out. :)
I've always believed in being frank and talking face-to-face to the people you're in trouble with. That's been my motto for a long time.
But things change when I'm involved in a trouble and not just viewing it through the eyes of an outsider. It's not that simple to be frank when you're having trouble with someone, especially with a dear one. I , to be honest, keep asking myself whether this one deserves to be talked to or not. Whether this one is hurt as much as I am. Whether this one will appreciate what the talk we're having or just ignore the details in order to skip the discussion. One of the most important questions would be whether this talk , though I'm supposed to be talking to a (close) friend, doesn't mean I'm humiliating myself in front of this person. Because if I started the discussion or the talk, this could mean that I'm willing to admit I'm guilty or at least that I'm always the weak side; the one who apologizes and feels bad when things go wrong. Sometimes I think this way and sometimes I don't really believe things can get so far between friends.
Despite all the aspects I just said, I still believe in talking things over and sort of revising the problem between the ones involved. It's definitely better than hiding things or not talking at all, which I admit I have done before, unwisely!! You see, one can even take advantage from negative incidents as well as good ones.
Besides, what I've discovered right now, if the one you're talking to doesn't appreciate the discussion you're having, then allow me to tell you, you've chosen a wrong friend. Nevertheless, sometimes you need to be the patient one, prevent any further harsh arguments and give this one some time to think over the things that you've said. I would say, in cases of misunderstanding you just have to give so much effort to come out with the least losses on each side. After all without discussing things and making compromises this time or the other we wouldn't have been able to solve stuff and overcome misunderstandings.
This makes me kind of relieved, because I needed to think things over before starting some sort of a reassuring argument..but I don't think it's that a big deal as I think it is. Misunderstandings happen, you just have to search and find your way out. :)
Monday, January 29, 2007
Confusion
You know these moments when things start to collapse after they were so fun and could be no better? I am having one of these moments right now. Not that school is starting in a few hours, though it's one of the unimportant reasons. It's just I have been having a great vacation, which could be no better, and then, all of a sudden: everything has to collapse after being a bit perfect.
You know when you feel that everything (well most of the things) you believed in are false and fake and that you have to give them all up? Of course, among all this rubbish I'm talking lies a large bit of exaggeration, but I can't stop it.
Why can't life take a mid line: I mean why can't we just live normally, no too happy moments and no too lousy ones. Why can't life be boring and monotonous and all the things we're escaping from at a time. Yes, life would be boring without dreams. And yes, it would be boring without fights and sorrows, unluckily. But this is not the solution: to live only ups and downs. Excuse my nonsense, but that's how it feels right now.
Ok, I admit things are not that bad as I am viewing them. Well, it's just I was so excited for today. We were supposed to go to the book fair and find a bunch of interesting books. But while I was trying to make things right with a friend (a close one), I was the one to get blamed. Don't ask me if it's bad luck or mishandling things from my side, but it did happen and I don't even want to think about it. I would say both. So the fun disappeared and instead was remorse, a bit anger and worries. And here I am, regretting the fact that this was how my holidays ended. But let's look on the bright side: I had a bit fun all in all (during the vacation I mean) and I relaxed. I guess I am too ambitious to wish for more.
Changing the subject would help...At the end of the day I bought any book which seemed interesting. My choice was "Dubliners", the Irish collection by James Joyce. Well, we read some extracts of it in the English lesson, they were good and nice to read. I hope and think I am going to enjoy reading this book. Don't ask me why, but I am so keen on reading at the moment. And if not, then I would borrow any book from the school library, which I don't think is much different from the book fair thing. I just want to read and that's it.
Apart from that, I went to the AUC and got this application forum. And even in this, things weren't as easy as I thought they would be. They said we had to pass or do this exam to transfer to the university. My dad started worried and imagining obstacles, which make me believe that I won't attend this university after I am starting to like the place and all. Never mind, you never know which college you'll join so early, in my opinion at least. You just attend one and after a while you find yourself in it, with all it's pros and cons.
I guess that's it with exaggeration for today.
You know these moments when things start to collapse after they were so fun and could be no better? I am having one of these moments right now. Not that school is starting in a few hours, though it's one of the unimportant reasons. It's just I have been having a great vacation, which could be no better, and then, all of a sudden: everything has to collapse after being a bit perfect.
You know when you feel that everything (well most of the things) you believed in are false and fake and that you have to give them all up? Of course, among all this rubbish I'm talking lies a large bit of exaggeration, but I can't stop it.
Why can't life take a mid line: I mean why can't we just live normally, no too happy moments and no too lousy ones. Why can't life be boring and monotonous and all the things we're escaping from at a time. Yes, life would be boring without dreams. And yes, it would be boring without fights and sorrows, unluckily. But this is not the solution: to live only ups and downs. Excuse my nonsense, but that's how it feels right now.
Ok, I admit things are not that bad as I am viewing them. Well, it's just I was so excited for today. We were supposed to go to the book fair and find a bunch of interesting books. But while I was trying to make things right with a friend (a close one), I was the one to get blamed. Don't ask me if it's bad luck or mishandling things from my side, but it did happen and I don't even want to think about it. I would say both. So the fun disappeared and instead was remorse, a bit anger and worries. And here I am, regretting the fact that this was how my holidays ended. But let's look on the bright side: I had a bit fun all in all (during the vacation I mean) and I relaxed. I guess I am too ambitious to wish for more.
Changing the subject would help...At the end of the day I bought any book which seemed interesting. My choice was "Dubliners", the Irish collection by James Joyce. Well, we read some extracts of it in the English lesson, they were good and nice to read. I hope and think I am going to enjoy reading this book. Don't ask me why, but I am so keen on reading at the moment. And if not, then I would borrow any book from the school library, which I don't think is much different from the book fair thing. I just want to read and that's it.
Apart from that, I went to the AUC and got this application forum. And even in this, things weren't as easy as I thought they would be. They said we had to pass or do this exam to transfer to the university. My dad started worried and imagining obstacles, which make me believe that I won't attend this university after I am starting to like the place and all. Never mind, you never know which college you'll join so early, in my opinion at least. You just attend one and after a while you find yourself in it, with all it's pros and cons.
I guess that's it with exaggeration for today.
Friday, January 26, 2007
First impressions!!
Well, long time no post. I was just busy, but now I'm as free as I can be. I don't know why this happens to me every time?Whenever I am busy I always find plenty of things to talk about and have this 'desire' to write and speak out some thoughts in my mind. And then, when I'm free and have so much time to do whatever I want, I lose all these thoughts. I don't know, it's a bit annoying.
So, I will just talk about anything popping up into my mind. I just remembered that I once read that the novel 'Pride and Prejudice' was actually named 'First impressions' before coming out with the name we know nowadays. Though 'Pride and Prejudice' is the most fitting name to the novel I also like 'First impressions'. Don't you think we're a bit affected by the first impressions we make? Don't you, moreover, think that most of the time these first impressions are wrong and force us into false roads? When thinking over some things I've done in the past and some opinions I've built in the past just because of first impressions, I regret being that shallow and jumping into conclusions without any reason. I mean first impressions could be fun when you say: Yeah, this guy seems boring. But this assumption shouldn't affect your opinion, this assumption can go no further, it just cannot be but an assumption. So, I would advise any of you not to take assumptions serious because they may drive you mad or let you miss some chances in knowing new people. Just as the case of Mr. Darcy and Lizzy: Their 'first impressions' on each other prevented them from knowing each other's real person and from falling in love with each other. Maybe this would be the case with any of us. Maybe the first impression obstacle would prevent us from getting to know people we might miss: friends, relatives and people in general. Don't you think it would be unfortunate to lose things in such a simple way??!
Hope I could help with this post.
Well, long time no post. I was just busy, but now I'm as free as I can be. I don't know why this happens to me every time?Whenever I am busy I always find plenty of things to talk about and have this 'desire' to write and speak out some thoughts in my mind. And then, when I'm free and have so much time to do whatever I want, I lose all these thoughts. I don't know, it's a bit annoying.
So, I will just talk about anything popping up into my mind. I just remembered that I once read that the novel 'Pride and Prejudice' was actually named 'First impressions' before coming out with the name we know nowadays. Though 'Pride and Prejudice' is the most fitting name to the novel I also like 'First impressions'. Don't you think we're a bit affected by the first impressions we make? Don't you, moreover, think that most of the time these first impressions are wrong and force us into false roads? When thinking over some things I've done in the past and some opinions I've built in the past just because of first impressions, I regret being that shallow and jumping into conclusions without any reason. I mean first impressions could be fun when you say: Yeah, this guy seems boring. But this assumption shouldn't affect your opinion, this assumption can go no further, it just cannot be but an assumption. So, I would advise any of you not to take assumptions serious because they may drive you mad or let you miss some chances in knowing new people. Just as the case of Mr. Darcy and Lizzy: Their 'first impressions' on each other prevented them from knowing each other's real person and from falling in love with each other. Maybe this would be the case with any of us. Maybe the first impression obstacle would prevent us from getting to know people we might miss: friends, relatives and people in general. Don't you think it would be unfortunate to lose things in such a simple way??!
Hope I could help with this post.
Saturday, January 06, 2007
I'M 18..how nice? (is it good? I think I'm different, but a little bit before being 18..hehe)
Well well..It's exactly 12 am and it's MY BIRTHDAY today. I wish myself all the best in my next year and I wish that all my friends will stay beside me next year. Guys (if you happen to open the internet once in a while), I love you and always will. Can't imagine things without you.
Bas..other than that..a difference..Maybe I am more mature right now (actually it happened through the last year, of course not right now..:)) and found a new year to handle things.
Yes, I am proud of what I've achieved till now and hope I will be able to achieve what I want next year. What else? Nothing..I am not really celebrating my birthday with friends this year, as I don't have the time and temper to plan anything at the moment, even if this thing happens to be my bday. Nevertheless I am happy and wish myself the best..(yea yea..selfish me..hehe.nm)
Well well..It's exactly 12 am and it's MY BIRTHDAY today. I wish myself all the best in my next year and I wish that all my friends will stay beside me next year. Guys (if you happen to open the internet once in a while), I love you and always will. Can't imagine things without you.
Bas..other than that..a difference..Maybe I am more mature right now (actually it happened through the last year, of course not right now..:)) and found a new year to handle things.
Yes, I am proud of what I've achieved till now and hope I will be able to achieve what I want next year. What else? Nothing..I am not really celebrating my birthday with friends this year, as I don't have the time and temper to plan anything at the moment, even if this thing happens to be my bday. Nevertheless I am happy and wish myself the best..(yea yea..selfish me..hehe.nm)
Tuesday, January 02, 2007
Was wondering through some thoughts of mine and came up with this, thought it's worth sharing..could be dedicated to anyone, not only about love and affection:
But you walked away
I wanted to talk to you
in the middle of all the rush
I wanted to tell you some things I had in mind
some wonderings I needed to share
I wanted to express what's inside this brain of mine
I just didn't dare
Though I don't believe in coincidence
it happened
though it was of common sense
I didn't make any sound
Maybe it's just my luck:
To wish and never dare
To hope and you don't care
To fall for your stubborn heart
while I couldn't bear to part
Was it me who disconnected?
Was it me to make a move?
No..it's only you
you walked away
But you walked away
I wanted to talk to you
in the middle of all the rush
I wanted to tell you some things I had in mind
some wonderings I needed to share
I wanted to express what's inside this brain of mine
I just didn't dare
Though I don't believe in coincidence
it happened
though it was of common sense
I didn't make any sound
Maybe it's just my luck:
To wish and never dare
To hope and you don't care
To fall for your stubborn heart
while I couldn't bear to part
Was it me who disconnected?
Was it me to make a move?
No..it's only you
you walked away
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