Weird thing
Well, I wanted to write or let's say wonder about some weird, though interesting topic which came into my mind lately. I decided to talk about when you are friends with two people and these two people are in fact not friends or even can't stand each other. I know quite a few people who have experience in such friendships. Half of them have problems with it and the other half claims to have none.
I was just wondering:Are there supposed to be some sort of rules for each side respecting the fact that you can't express your disapproval of the other one because this other one happens to be the friend of your friend? And this friend 'combining' both, he will probably love someone more than the other or what? And if so, will the one he loves less be able to feel it, deal with it and even live with it?
Can this person in the middle manage to give both sides equal rights to avoid misunderstandings or unsatisfactory? Or is all this unobtainable?
As I was never the person in the middle, or it was only for a short period of time, I can't really give an exact opinion on the matter.But I dare say such friendships can exist, if the person in the middle managed to control each side and convince them that they both mean something to him/her.If not,then it's really done with one of the friendships. I would say this managing and controling has to do with tolerance and respect, which is automatically included in a true friendship. If I have a friend, that means I like him/her,I respect his identity as well as his choices, including his friends. So,if two friends are already freinds in the right sense of the word, so there has to be no doubt about this third one,who is hated or disliked by one of them.
I really respect the people I know who manage to keep such friendships 'alive', because that means they're nothing but a true friend to both sides. I furthemore consider it a test to prove whether the friendship is strong enough to overcome obstacles or not.