I have realized I was sort of criticizing what I just did. It felt bad, because I was doing exactly what the ones I hated did, except I did notice it and I don't think it occurred often.
Why doesn't it last, this feeling that things are just fine, simply feeling good? Why does it seem as if good things don't last, neither good one nor bad ones to be honest? Things change I guess, in order to make us less bored, in order to escape from the routine life would bring along if we were always happy.
I think the tricky part is for us to stop blaming fate or blaming anyone. It's a chance for us to prove we are strong and flexible enough to handle things when they go the way we don't prefer.
And I am telling you as a result of a personal experience: The time when you think everything is messed up, is exactly the time missing out of your life, because things won't stay complicated, definitely not if you wanted them to change to the contrary and done something towards that change. So, feeling bad is practically wasting one's time one way or the other.
Discussing is becoming one of the things I like. I always prefer to be as objective as possible. But sometimes it just doesn't work out the way it was supposed to do, especially when it comes to sensitive and personal subjects. I think that's a test of its own: Being able to stay and keep yourself neutral, though the subject talked about concerns you, concerns matters you believed and always will; politics and one's country for instance.
The last few days, we had some discussions and there occurred some (halfway offensive) opinions about groups I belong to, such as my country, my ethnic group so to speak. Apart from the fact that it feels bad when the place you live in is messed up somehow, it feels sort of obnoxious and drives me crazy sometimes when people are stubborn enough to claim they are right, when they simply no nothing of the country. I won't disagree if someone mentioned real facts, which contains some percentage of the truth, but it's provoking when people (not to speak of foreigners) add other information, which is by no means true.
This incidence made me a bit angry that I kind of lost control over myself. I mean, nothing happened except that I started to hate or scorn these people who are not of the same opinion as I am. And now I blame myself for blabbering the word "objective" and criticizing the ones who can't stay neutral, while -at the same time- I'm losing control over myself.
But, at the end, I realized this can happen. It's normal that one gets affected (emotional) when it comes to such topics. It's not that bad, I would say, because I noticed my fault and kind of am regretting it. I also hope people who would say anything, especially when their information is included in a serious discussion, then I would rather ask them (from the bottom of my heart) to be reassured of what they are saying, or else it would nothing be but offending other's belongings, which isn't pleasant, don't you think?
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