Is love scientifically proved? I don't know, didn't do any researches, but I would rather go for a "No" as an answer. Lately, I have started to be convinced of the fact that there isn't such thing as love or that the definition of love as shown in movies simply is exaggerated and can't exist in real life.
Of course, when you're in love, you think that this is the love of your life and that this is real love you're having for this one. But, viewing things from another perspective, what are we talking about? Two people want to have something for each other, want to stay and talk with each other, want to adore each other and want to feel this thing called 'love'.
But, as this love-feeling can occur several times with different people, this feeling can't be a once in a lifetime experience. The expression "the one" is no more practical. Maybe it is also something we convince ourselves we're going through.
At first I thought love is like destiny and I believed in such things mentioned in movies, love poems and fantasies. I believed there is 'the one' for everyone of us, meaning that you can fall in love only once during your whole life.
But now, (not that something in specific happened to me) I don't really believe in such phenomenas. As cruel as it may sound: love is a feeling we want to live, no matter if it's true or not. Being in love doesn't necessarily mean you can't live without this one, it simply means that you somehow fit together, not by virtue of destiny or your zodiac signs or love, but because both of you happen to want the same thing from each other and both of you don't hate each other. Maybe there lies some bit of affection among all this, but it doesn't exceed being an 'affection', an admiration, but not love in the sense shown in movies and other romantic plays.
That does not mean I'm against romantic movies or books, I just don't think they're realistic enough. In fact, romances are my favourite, but you have to be aware that reality is way too far from what is shown in there. Furthermore, that doesn't mean I'm against being in love or being in a spiritual connection, it just means I'm a bit confused (and disappointed) that what we dream of can never be true to the fullest extent, because what we dream of simply is unobtainable.
Nevertheless, I hope we can all manage to mix our lives and join in it some crazy bits of fantasy and other (major) realistic points in order to make our lives as profitable and enjoyable as it can be.
2 comments:
Falling in love once in a lifetime?
Well, you only marry once in your life or at least you should.. So there must be something like the love of your life.
Concerning the movies, I honestly think that they are an insult to love. Not the exaggerated but the abstracted form.
They have forgotten what love is really about and of course it has to do with destiny. That you share the exact same feelings with one person out of million walking around out there, is destiny!
But not like the movies show it: Love at first sight, etc.
It can happen but if it did then it's just an exception if it worked.
Anyway, we still have some time and I believe that there is someone for everyone.
Sibiha 3ala Rabena! ;)
Well, I can't agree bardo.
Your arguments still didn't convince me yet.
First of all: Why should the 'fact' that we marry once mean that we do love once in a lifetime? You didn't mention any reason for your first assumption.
Then, why are you so sure that the two lovers share 'the exact same feeling'? They only go in the same direction maybe, but still, everyone has his/her perspective and has therefore different feelings I guess.
Besides, what one can call destiny is that you end up with someone called X. But the reason lying behind this (happy) end (isA) isn't love, it is simply because you fit together and you accept being loved by each other. That's it. The other attributes like destiny, exact same feeling and love are things we imagine and combine in order to make the shared feeling tasty.
Nevertheless, I'm willing to change my mind if you provided me with a clear proof of your opinion.
Thanks for the comment anyways.
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